Actually, most of that (with the possible exception of the last bit) wouldn't cause me to twitch at all. Hearing myself referred to as "he" in the context of things that happened more than a year ago is a context driven thing and so not a big deal. Regardless, you are definitely one of the people who I know is paying attention and not denying me anything with regards to identity. Indeed, I've referred to you as the friend who "seems to be determined to build a woman out of the available material". So relax :)